How to change our psychological distance
From home, I often take bus number 8.
When there are few people in the car, I usually find an entire row of seats to sit down.
It was later discovered that a considerable number of people had this habit.
If there are more and more people in the car, and people have to stand in the compartment crowded with each other, you will find that people and people are standing back to back, eyes are looking out of the window, the body posture is contracted, for fear of andTouched by others.
Why is this happening?
People seem to be separated by an invisible wall.
This wall is a sign that people’s psychological distance is widening.
Nowadays, people ‘s material life is getting better and better. Various facilities in cities are becoming more and more advanced. In crowded cities, we often see some urban people proud of their place of residence. They have counted the famous cities in the city.Yes, museums, theaters, concert halls, and big people, in fact, they have very little opportunity to enjoy life, especially the relationship between people becomes more and more indifferent, and the psychological distance of people is getting farther and farther.
Therefore, while the construction and facilities of the city have brought comfort and convenience to people, many problems have also arisen.
From the perspective of human survival, human life is far from the land and the natural environment, and thus detached from the root of existence.
Urbanization has reduced people’s living space, but it has increased the psychological distance between people.
People’s ability to live and work actually decline.
”Distance” is one of the basic concepts of geometry. It has different boundaries for different objects. It is interpreted in the dictionary as a spatial and temporal separation.
The “distance” here is habitually determined as the natural distance, and few people are related to the inner world of the person. In fact, there is also a distance in the human mind, and this distance is manifested in various emotional states.
For example, now that we have relatives between us, there are fewer people visiting; young people go home to visit their parents less often; everyone thinks that conscience is harder to find than before . In fact, this is all psychologicalThe performance of widening distance.
With the economic and social development, especially the rapid development of industrialization and informatization, mankind has changed the entire world, greatly enriched its material and spiritual life, and promoted the great development of human society. Industrialization has brought many peopleWhile enjoying, it also brought a lot of psychological pressure to people, and even caused serious psychological obstacles.
Now the greatest enemy of mankind is not famine, earthquake, cancer, psychological problems such as loneliness, irritability, inferiority, depression, sexual perversion, superstition, suicide, etc.
The reason is that human beings have been away from Mother Earth for too long, so all kinds of psychological problems will occur, so that people will no longer be as close and friendly to each other as when they were born, me and him,There is an increasing psychological distance between him and you. Some distances take a long time to “replace”, and some distances cannot even “replace”.
Sometimes we are already avoiding each other or even hating each other.
We distance ourselves and walk lonely in the homes of all of us. This is the sadness of us human beings as the spirit of all things.
I remember this poem: the furthest distance in the world / not life and death / but I stand in front of you / you don’t know that I love you . this is a person who loves him with his indifferent heartThe person is a person who dug up a trench that people can’t cross with indifference.
This is not an objective reason that widens the psychological distance between people, but also a ditch that is difficult for a person to overcome with their own psychology, and turns the distance of actual life into a psychological distance between people.
We certainly don’t want this mentality to linger in our lives.
How to make our human mind return to nature and reduce the psychological distance between people. In fact, the concept of “harmony between man and nature” in Chinese classical philosophy has given us a good answer. This idea has become an important part of Confucianism for more than 2000 years.The view is that man and nature are essentially connected, so all people and things should follow the laws of nature and achieve harmony between man and nature.
The most basic way of thinking of the Chinese is embodied in the relationship between man and heaven. He believes that man and nature live in harmony is one of the most important principles.
Therefore, we need to return to nature and rebuild the harmonious relationship between humans and nature.
Advanced industrial production methods and urbanized lifestyles are irreversible. How to make this way of life become poetic, that is, to achieve a new “harmony between man and nature” under the circumstances of modernization, industrialization, and electronics.